Today is our 9th wedding anniversary. I remember reaching the 8th year mark last year. Time flies too fast for the past 12 months. To be honest, this is the year where i did no preparation (so unusual of me); no gift bought, no card message written, no fancy dinner booked, no vacation planned. We were just too occupied with the demands on daily (work) life. Yesterday, he texted me asking whether i prefer a dinner date or lunch date. I replied: “I’ll think about it” while I was finishing a report at work. Then, i totally forgot.
I am lucky to be married to the same kind and caring person that I knew 10 years back. The only change in the relationship is that the kind of challenges we face every year. In every difficult situation we faced, we agree on one thing: “We are in this together”. It is a blessing to have one person who is always there for you, when you feel the whole world is against you.
I feel as if I don’t deserve to celebrate the anniversary this year. Looking back for the past one year, I feel that i am allowing my marriage runs on an auto-pilot mode. We were so busy with work. I was/am adapting to a new job. He also moved to a new workplace. We lived separately for a few months when he goes offshore (again, after 10 years). Life was just spinning for the whole year.
However looking at another perspective, we should be grateful for having each other and stay married. Over the past few years, a few who are close to me had lose their spouses; either due to divorce or passing of the loved one. With that, it is no harm to celebrate with the special person in your life and enjoy every (quality) moment that we can spend with each other. 9 years is a (beautiful) milestone. Alhamdulillah, praise to Allah s.w.t.